Series of harmful phrases that the society need to stop saying. Part 2

 




"You're the provider just focus on work"

The idea that a man's worth is tied only to his ability to make money or provide financially puts enormous pressure on men. It devalues their emotional needs and reduces their identity to a job title or paycheck. Men are more than providers; they are human beings with complex emotional lies that deserve care and attention. 

"Talking about feelings is weak"

Strength isn't about staying silent; it's about facing your emotions and working through them. When society tells men that talking about feelings is weak, it encourages emotional isolation. Vulnerability requires courage and we should redefine strength as the ability to be open, seek support and grow from challenges. 

"He has everything, what does he have to be depressed about?"

Mental illness doesn't discriminate based on success, income or status. Assuming that someone can't be depressed because they appear to have it all over looks the internal battles people face. Men are often expected to remain composed no matter what, but external appearances rarely reflect internal realities. Mental Health is complex and shouldn't be invalidated based on surface level. 

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